Thursday, February 28, 2013

Budget Cuts!

I have been looking up and researching ways to save some money. Now that our income has significantly decreased, this is something that has become very important. But the more and more i look, i am realizing that i am doing 90% of the things i'm finding. Idk yet what i am going to do to save some dough! But i need to start figuring soon cause its not looking good. I just got my tax return (NOT NEARLY WHAT I WAS EXPECTING) and i used this to pay off our huggggeee phone/cable/internet (contracted) bill, i am buying the twins convertible car-seats and high chairs. Other than that the money is gone, we have no savings and this small chunk I've got i'm going to but the big things i will need in the upcoming months.

"You never know how much broker you will be tomorrow." This is a quote i have decided i will live by from now on. If i have the money to buy it today and know i will need it in the next month or two i am going to get it, what if i have absolutely no way to get it later, then what will we do?

I will update once i have got a plan but for now it's going to be a penny pinching few months!... well it would be if Canada wasn't getting rid of the penny!!!

Monday, February 25, 2013

F**K YOU 11:11

For the past little while I have been noticing 11:11 more then I ever have before, i will see it in the am and pm, I will notice a message was sent at 11:11, I seem to walk out into my kitchen at 11:11 every night, usually the morning one is noticed on my computer. The other night what i experienced kept me awake i was so freaked out.

Before i get into this i need you to know a couple things, my stove time, i thought i set it off of my phone time, my alarm clock is preset and has been since i got it months ago, and my phone is also digitally preset off of my phone connection thing. Also i had no clue what the time differences were/are between any of these things, and  you also should know that i live in a small apartment so my room, Kalli's room and the kitchen are very close so it didn't take long going between rooms.

So I walked into my bedroom to put the babies into their bed, when i walked in i glanced at the alarm clock and it said 11:11 and i was like "God Damn, seriously" and then i went on with what i was doing, i laid the babies down and then took my hair out of the elastic and brushed it, I looked back at my alarm clock and it then said 11:14, and i thought wouldn't it be freaky if i went out and the stove said 11:11, so i stopped brushing and went out, sure enough it did!!!! i had to sit there a second and take it in. I was a little bit freaked out by it.  I was also home alone, Jordan had gone out to a friends house. So after I collected myself again i went in to check on Kalli, adjusted the heat in her room like i always do before i go to bed, when i got back into my bedroom i picked up the phone  to call my mom before i went to sleep and, yup the phone said 11:11... I ended up freaking out a bit, i laid in bed scared SH**LESS for at least an hour until i fell asleep. 

This really pushed this thing over the edge for me, now i am so freaked out i nearly cry every time i see the number, I  wish i could jut stop seeing it!! PLEASE!

Friday, February 22, 2013

Dear Readers

Now I know that I am just getting started in this Blogger/Vlogger World but i am reaching out to anyone who reads this before March 13th. I am asking if you could be so kind as to go and Vote for my Youtube Vlog Channel for the top 25 Mommy Vlogs of 2013, I would LOVE to make the list and im sure i wont but to have even a few votes to know that someone out there is watching would really make my day. I would love to reach out to younger girld and maybe to help someone in a similar situation. In the side bar is a button to go and vote for me!

Thursday, February 21, 2013

Our New "Outing" Set-Up

As you may know it is very hard to go out with 3 babies, however with the right tools you can make life much, much easier.
We drive a sun fire, aka teeny tiny has no business driving around a big family, but it does! Now our biggest problem going out right now is that the babies in their car seats weight a ton! Oh, and that our trunk absolutely does not fit our MONSTER Double +Sit and stand stroller. Sooo our solution (for now) if that i put a baby in the baby carrier (yes i know all the stuff about the whole crotch dangler thing, i always keep one hand on baby to support him/her) and the other is in the click it stroller, the most awesome amazing thing i have ever found!! I can easily steer with one hand. And Kalli pretty much just walks and hold our hand now, so really if i 100% absolutely had to i could go out alone, but i really don't plan on it from a lonnnngggg time! And since my kiddos wont fit in their infant carrier forever, when they are big enough  will be putting them in a double umbrella stroller. Maybe someday we will get a van though and i can take out my massive stroller contraption!

Wednesday, February 20, 2013

New Adventures...

So it's official, Jordan is done work. He has taken parental leave from work to learn how to parent and to bond with our kids. In Canada, if you have worked a certain # of hours you are entitled to 35 weeks of parental leave, where they pay you 55% of your wages. It is going to be very tough financially, and we are now going to have to completely refocus our budget. I don't know yet how its going to work out but one thing i do know for sure is that it's going to be real tough to cut out unnecessary items, when you are already only buying the necessities.

I don't know where we will be 6 months from now, but as long as we're together  hope we will all be happy and healthy, i will keep you updated on how everything is going in out lives. See ya soon!

Monday, February 18, 2013

Babbles & Bubbles

Kalli is now 15 months old and she still isn't talking, she has all the sounds in her babbles but she has yet to put much of anything together  She says hi, and mama, but not always just sometimes other than that she doesn't connect any of what she says. Im getting a bit concerned about it, I read to her and speak with her but shes just not into it. I really hope she starts catching before her 18 month appointment, when they say she should be saying 5 + words!

Another thing happening with Kal is that she is terrified of bubbles, yeah sound funny i guess but when i gave her her first "bubble" bath she cried and wouldn't touch the bubbles! Poor girl!

Thursday, February 14, 2013

Happy Valentines Day!

Today is the day that love is celebrated, we go on dates, dress our babies up and spend way too much on roses and chocolate. I love this holiday, and the only people who truly hate it are the single people, or the people who are away from their loved ones, I however am lucky enough to be spending today with the people who I Love the most, My  Hubby, my kids and my Mom. I Hope everyone has a lovely valentines day.

 Here are a few fun facts about V-Day!
  • Valentine’s Day there is a 3.6 percent increase in spontaneous births
  • More than 36 million heart-shaped boxes of chocolate are sold for Valentine's Day each year.
  • On average, men shell out $130 each on candy, cards, jewelry, flowers and dates. That’s more than double what women commit to spending.
  • About 8 billion candy hearts will be produced this year; that’s enough candy to stretch from Rome, Italy to Valentine, Arizona 20 times and back again.
  • Worldwide, over 50 million roses are given for Valentine's Day each year.
  • Women purchase 85% of all valentines.
  • In order of popularity, Valentine's Day cards are given to teachers, children, mothers, wives, sweethearts and pets.
  • 73% of people who buy flowers for Valentine's Day are men, while only 27 percent are women.
  • In the Middle Ages, young men and women drew names from a bowl to see who their valentines would be. They would wear these names on their sleeves for one week. To wear your heart on your sleeve now means that it is easy for other people to know how you are feeling.
  • The Italian city of Verona, where Shakespeare's lovers Romeo and Juliet lived, receives about 1,000 letters addressed to Juliet every Valentine's Day.
  • Alexander Graham Bell applied for his patent on the telephone, an "Improvement in Telegraphy", on Valentine's Day, 1876.s 
  • In Medieval times, girls ate unusual foods on St Valentine's Day to make them dream of their future husband.
  • According to the condom company Durex, condom sales are highest around Valentine's Day, which are 20 percent to 30 percent higher than usual.
  • More at-home pregnancy tests are sold in March than in any other month.
  • Penicillin, a popular treatment for venereal diseases such as syphilis, was introduced to the world on February 14, 1929.

Tuesday, February 12, 2013

Babies In a Waiting Room

Have you ever been to a dr`s office and there is a mother there who`s child wont atop crying or just wont sit still, well that was me today, Jordan and I took all 3 kids to the dr.. well Our dr office is TINY!!! the waiting room is about the size of Kalli`s Bedroom literary 8 Chairs, 4 along 2 walls and a door on another wall and a BIG ASS desk in the corner between the other two. SMALL SMALL SPACE! Not only was it tiny but it had to fit my family, which consisted of Me, Jordan, Kalli, The twins, their Car seats that they were in, our big puffy winter coats, a diaper bag, AND 6-8 other people in that waiting room! And of course Kalli sat still for all of 84 seconds before she started going stir crazy and sinning and trying to get strangers to pick her up and trying to steal the mas coffee and sitting down right behind the door and trying to grab things off the desk, ripping magazines, throwing her bottle, screaming when we tried to pick her up and absolutely not cooperating what so ever! On top of this i also had the twins there, by this time they hadn't eaten in nearly 3 hours and they were starting to fuss, so while sticking paci`s in moths keeping Kalli off of strange mens laps and that office was heating up  fast, with the 11 bodies in that tiny room and the energy coming off Kalli we were in a tiny sauna. Honestly i am not very fond of this doctor so far, my lovely awesome dr retired and this is who we were placed with, with NO option to change because  of such a lack of Dr`s in our area its very much take what you get and suck it up! This office is not very kid friendly, Usually a Family dr would have toys or a kid book or something but nope! On top of the lack of entertainment was a sign on the wall that read "Parents, Please keep your Kids Under Control". ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME!?!?!?!? Have you people ever tried to keep kids cooped up like that for half an hour wait in a hot office with little entertainment and have them "Under control?"

So finally we get out of the waiting room and into the cramped little Dr. Office room where she informs me that i need to go back in 2 weeks because she didn't know that the babies needed needles and she didn't have the drug there. ARE YOU SERIOUS!! I live forever away and it is obviously hard to handle all them kids there and i have to come back... I am Sooo Not impressed.

Friday, February 8, 2013

Terrible Twos Have Come Early!

To be perfectly honest Kalli has been less than a joy lately. She is coming to an age where her independence has not yet caught up with her ability to do things, this resulting in the "terrible Twos" making their appearance early. Now i understand that the terrible twos are not an actual scientifically proven phenomenon or anything but there has most deffinitly been a change in my once happy-go-lucky little girl, She is throwing tantrums daily, and getting into everything. She hears "No" so often i truly think its starting to lose its meaning to her. She cannot talk yet so her communication is lacking and her demands are growing. I have been doing some research about the "Terrible Twos" and I have put together some things i wanted to share. 

The Terrible Twos a Time of Tantrums and Tumbles

Toddlers know what they want when they want it, and a lot of the time don't have the words to properly express what they are looking for, this can be frustrating for them. Imagine if you were trying so desperately to tell someone what you want or need and they just couldn't understand you, well you might cry too. So don't blame them try to help them learn to communicate better rater than getting upset yourself try to figure out what they are wanting, tantrums are going to happen, and they are probably going to happen in public every time you go out somewhere but that is no reason to stay cooped up in the house all the time is it? As long as you can learn to deal with it ad not to let it phase you you can easily get through a trip to Walmart with all your hair intact!

Maybe your child can communicate with you better, when you have to say no, you cannot have that toy or no you cannot eat the cat food. They are not going to like this very much. Saying no all the time they may just stop listening and start repeating  At this age a kids favorite work is probably no. Bed time, NO, Eat time, NO, Bath time, NO! No it's mine, No you can't have it, No i don't like you! are going to be things you probably hear a lot, I don't have this problem exactly yet, and even though my kid can't talk yet NO is a prominent statement in our house, she shakes her head no rather than using the word and i get it all the time. but if you can just stand your ground and  not give in, you will be moved onto the next issue before you know it!

Toddlers are at a point in their development where they are completely mobile, they can go anywhere, and also do and climb anything they want. They also have not yet developed a sense of danger so when they decide to scale the changing table or they seek out new heights such as the kitchen table, they do so without fear. As a parent you are constantly running back and forth keeping them out of things and prying your kids death grip from the scissors they somehow manages to grab off of a counter that yesterday they most certainly could not reach onto, or you are saving them from a two foot fall to the floor. They are crazy little people, the most brave and self assured daredevils you will ever meet, but they still need you. Aside from the courageousness of the terrible twos they still need their mommy and daddy, and you are still their biggest sense of comfort. When you don't make it to their balancing act in time and they do get a little bump or bruise they turn to you for a kiss better it may be a very frustrating time but you can't get mad at them its just they way they work right now.

My tips for dealing with your toddler :

  • Mean it when you say no
  • Stand your Ground, Don't give in
  • Toddler Proof!
  • Don't go too far away
  • Don't get mad, it's not their fault
  • Always remember, Your kid isn't giving you a hard time, they are having a hard time!

Tuesday, February 5, 2013

Momma's little helper!

Kalli has started imitating everything that i do these days. Its nice to see her helping, but sometimes it makes everything that much harder, especially Laundry. I usually sit on the floor in the living room and fold, sort and put in the basket to be put away later. Well when Kalli decides to help she just picks them all up and throws them in the basket, and then she gets in too!!! Another thing that she has been doing is trying to play with the diaper genies, she opens and closes them and pulls on the liners.

Kalli is in such an awesome stage right now, she is learning so much and explores like crazy. She is starting to really notice that if she climbs she can see new things, she is climbing the baby chairs  swings, coffee table, changing tables, chairs coaches, beds... anything she can get her feet into. I Love my beautiful little girl! She is a crazy hard to handle monkey but it only lasts a moment then its on to the next phase of life. 

Back on Youtube!

Im So excited to announce that i am finally back on youtube, i really want to become more involved in the youtube mommy community. I have been uploading videos today and soon as i can i will be doing some day in the life videos! I need to get a new laptop first but hopefully that will be very soon! Pleasse check out my channel by CLICKING HERE. Thanks and dont forget to like comment and subscribe!

Also today i had an exceptionally good day! It started out not so great but it has really turned around! Jordan and I started the day off with big ole fight, and then the babies all started crying while he went to sleep, I finally got them all fed and happy and then he woke up and wanted me to cook! But after that Kalli was just such an absolute delight that it really helped me cheer up! And of course jumping back into youtube has also made me super happy and excited!

My youtube is now in the sidebar! please check it out and rate, comment & subscribe!

Saturday, February 2, 2013

Response to "2011teenagemom"

This morning while Kalli ate her breakfast and i fed the twins i logged onto youtube (as i usually do) and i opened a video titled "Teen Parents Having More Children", so i watched it because i watch all of her videos and honestly i was pretty much offended by this video, yeah its hard to have multiple children, and yes it happens a lot the statistics for teens is that 25% will become pregnant within two years after giving birth.  I am a statistic i guess, i got pregnant 3 months after giving birth, Kalli was planned (not well planned, but deffanitly intentional). I got pregnant with the twins while I was on tri-cyclen lo, i was also breastfeeding, and honestly we had sex like 3 times before i got knocked up! I did consider my options and decided to keep "the baby" ( i didnt know it was twins yet). I have always been Pro-Life, but until your in the situation where you need to consider possibly terminating, you really have no idea; you get a whole new outlook on it with the fear, regret and uncertainty. It was a hard decision for me to make but did i choose the easy road? probably not. Was it a good decision? I dont know? But do i love my kids more than anything in the world? Yes, and even though this is a hard life i am dealing with it one day at a time.  I want to tell everyone the truth about how hard it really is having babies young, and having multiples. Babies are demanding and take up all your time and energy. They want to be fed, changed, held, played with, bathed, left alone, they need 110% of your attention and with three it is very hard.
Now i said before that i was offended by her video, but do i disagree, not really. I deffinitly think everyone should wait to have kids until they are 100% stable, but things happen sometimes no mater what precautions that you take. Most relationships have a physical element and you cant just eliminate that large part of your relationship and expect it to not suffer greatly.
I deffinitly think that teens should wait to have more kids, but if the first was a surprise who's to say another one wont be. Unless you and your partner stop having sex there is no  guarantee.
I wouldnt trade my kids for anything, and i wouldnt change my decision if i had the chance.
Ihave decided to start posting and vlogging about "reality" i dont want to hide the bad i dont want to mask it with the good times and left out issues, i want everyone out there to see how hard life really can get for me. I will be getting a new laptop soon so that i can vlog and record some tantrums. But until then i am going to tell it like it is right here on my new little vlog.

**So Vanessa, if somewhere out in internet land if you happen to read this, i just want to say please dont judge other peoples lives, the decisions they have made may have been the hardest they have ever had to make, they could be struggling or they could be abundantly happy with the way they live. It's easy to get pregnant, you already should know that, so you should also realize it happening again is just as easy. And btw thank you for inspiring my new endeavors. **

Friday, February 1, 2013

Our "getting out of the house" Routine

Today we decided to take a drive to the states to get some milk and gas, we made this decision around 8:30 am, we were on the road about 2 hours later. Every where we go people are always commenting on how long it must take us to go anywhere. Honestly, it absolutely takes longer than the old on a whim trips but its not really as bad as most people assume, especially since i think we have a pretty good routine, and i can run this drill like a well oiled machine by now.
If we plan a trip before hand this can take slightly less time because i have everything prepared but today it was a last minute decision. (I will make a post later about how I plan for our shopping trips). I was actually feeding Emma and had just got up when we decided this so Luke was already asleep. But its still basically the same routine that I use.

8:30 Feed Emma, Decide to go shopping!
8:45 Make Kalli Breakfast (Banana, Milk)
8:50 Pack Diaper Bag while Kalli Eats
9:00 Feed Luke
9:15 Wipe Kalli off and get her out of her seat
9:20 Dress and Change Luke
9:25 Put Luke in Car Seat (It needed to be re-threaded today so it took an extra 10 minutes to do this!)
9:40 Dress and Change Emma
9:45 Put Emma in her cars eat
9:50 Put Kalli's Car seat and Luke's Base in car
10:10 Get myself dressed
10:15 Get Kalli dressed
10:25 Put Diaper Bag and formula to return in car
10:30 Put Kids in Car and Leave!!

I do this all myself, Jordan occupy's Kalli while i get the twins ready, otherwise she'd be having a fit! All in all today was good we got out quickly and efficiently without any major snags in our plan other that re-threading the car seats... that is a pain in my a** but it's gotta be done!
Leaving the house really isn't an easy task but it is so worth it to relieve that bit of cabin fever I get! I never go out completely alone with more than one, i just don't feel comfortable with it right now, maybe if it was the twins, but not with Kalli! Someday when they can all walk then i will do it but for now i am NOT flying solo! And the absolute best advice i could give to anyone trying to leave the house is have a plan if you can and try to do it the most efficient way possible!