Terrible Twos Have Come Early!

To be perfectly honest Kalli has been less than a joy lately. She is coming to an age where her independence has not yet caught up with her ability to do things, this resulting in the "terrible Twos" making their appearance early. Now i understand that the terrible twos are not an actual scientifically proven phenomenon or anything but there has most deffinitly been a change in my once happy-go-lucky little girl, She is throwing tantrums daily, and getting into everything. She hears "No" so often i truly think its starting to lose its meaning to her. She cannot talk yet so her communication is lacking and her demands are growing. I have been doing some research about the "Terrible Twos" and I have put together some things i wanted to share. 

The Terrible Twos a Time of Tantrums and Tumbles

Toddlers know what they want when they want it, and a lot of the time don't have the words to properly express what they are looking for, this can be frustrating for them. Imagine if you were trying so desperately to tell someone what you want or need and they just couldn't understand you, well you might cry too. So don't blame them try to help them learn to communicate better rater than getting upset yourself try to figure out what they are wanting, tantrums are going to happen, and they are probably going to happen in public every time you go out somewhere but that is no reason to stay cooped up in the house all the time is it? As long as you can learn to deal with it ad not to let it phase you you can easily get through a trip to Walmart with all your hair intact!

Maybe your child can communicate with you better, when you have to say no, you cannot have that toy or no you cannot eat the cat food. They are not going to like this very much. Saying no all the time they may just stop listening and start repeating  At this age a kids favorite work is probably no. Bed time, NO, Eat time, NO, Bath time, NO! No it's mine, No you can't have it, No i don't like you! are going to be things you probably hear a lot, I don't have this problem exactly yet, and even though my kid can't talk yet NO is a prominent statement in our house, she shakes her head no rather than using the word and i get it all the time. but if you can just stand your ground and  not give in, you will be moved onto the next issue before you know it!

Toddlers are at a point in their development where they are completely mobile, they can go anywhere, and also do and climb anything they want. They also have not yet developed a sense of danger so when they decide to scale the changing table or they seek out new heights such as the kitchen table, they do so without fear. As a parent you are constantly running back and forth keeping them out of things and prying your kids death grip from the scissors they somehow manages to grab off of a counter that yesterday they most certainly could not reach onto, or you are saving them from a two foot fall to the floor. They are crazy little people, the most brave and self assured daredevils you will ever meet, but they still need you. Aside from the courageousness of the terrible twos they still need their mommy and daddy, and you are still their biggest sense of comfort. When you don't make it to their balancing act in time and they do get a little bump or bruise they turn to you for a kiss better it may be a very frustrating time but you can't get mad at them its just they way they work right now.

My tips for dealing with your toddler :

• Mean it when you say no
• Stand your Ground, Don't give in
• Toddler Proof!
• Don't go too far away
• Don't get mad, it's not their fault
• Always remember, Your kid isn't giving you a hard time, they are having a hard time!

Momma's little helper!

Kalli has started imitating everything that i do these days. Its nice to see her helping, but sometimes it makes everything that much harder, especially Laundry. I usually sit on the floor in the living room and fold, sort and put in the basket to be put away later. Well when Kalli decides to help she just picks them all up and throws them in the basket, and then she gets in too!!! Another thing that she has been doing is trying to play with the diaper genies, she opens and closes them and pulls on the liners.

Kalli is in such an awesome stage right now, she is learning so much and explores like crazy. She is starting to really notice that if she climbs she can see new things, she is climbing the baby chairs  swings, coffee table, changing tables, chairs coaches, beds... anything she can get her feet into. I Love my beautiful little girl! She is a crazy hard to handle monkey but it only lasts a moment then its on to the next phase of life. 

Back on Youtube!

Im So excited to announce that i am finally back on youtube, i really want to become more involved in the youtube mommy community. I have been uploading videos today and soon as i can i will be doing some day in the life videos! I need to get a new laptop first but hopefully that will be very soon! Pleasse check out my channel by CLICKING HERE. Thanks and dont forget to like comment and subscribe!

Also today i had an exceptionally good day! It started out not so great but it has really turned around! Jordan and I started the day off with big ole fight, and then the babies all started crying while he went to sleep, I finally got them all fed and happy and then he woke up and wanted me to cook! But after that Kalli was just such an absolute delight that it really helped me cheer up! And of course jumping back into youtube has also made me super happy and excited!

My youtube is now in the sidebar! please check it out and rate, comment & subscribe!

Response to "2011teenagemom"

This morning while Kalli ate her breakfast and i fed the twins i logged onto youtube (as i usually do) and i opened a video titled "Teen Parents Having More Children", so i watched it because i watch all of her videos and honestly i was pretty much offended by this video, yeah its hard to have multiple children, and yes it happens a lot the statistics for teens is that 25% will become pregnant within two years after giving birth.  I am a statistic i guess, i got pregnant 3 months after giving birth, Kalli was planned (not well planned, but deffanitly intentional). I got pregnant with the twins while I was on tri-cyclen lo, i was also breastfeeding, and honestly we had sex like 3 times before i got knocked up! I did consider my options and decided to keep "the baby" ( i didnt know it was twins yet). I have always been Pro-Life, but until your in the situation where you need to consider possibly terminating, you really have no idea; you get a whole new outlook on it with the fear, regret and uncertainty. It was a hard decision for me to make but did i choose the easy road? probably not. Was it a good decision? I dont know? But do i love my kids more than anything in the world? Yes, and even though this is a hard life i am dealing with it one day at a time.  I want to tell everyone the truth about how hard it really is having babies young, and having multiples. Babies are demanding and take up all your time and energy. They want to be fed, changed, held, played with, bathed, left alone, they need 110% of your attention and with three it is very hard.
Now i said before that i was offended by her video, but do i disagree, not really. I deffinitly think everyone should wait to have kids until they are 100% stable, but things happen sometimes no mater what precautions that you take. Most relationships have a physical element and you cant just eliminate that large part of your relationship and expect it to not suffer greatly.
I deffinitly think that teens should wait to have more kids, but if the first was a surprise who's to say another one wont be. Unless you and your partner stop having sex there is no  guarantee.
I wouldnt trade my kids for anything, and i wouldnt change my decision if i had the chance.
Ihave decided to start posting and vlogging about "reality" i dont want to hide the bad i dont want to mask it with the good times and left out issues, i want everyone out there to see how hard life really can get for me. I will be getting a new laptop soon so that i can vlog and record some tantrums. But until then i am going to tell it like it is right here on my new little vlog.

**So Vanessa, if somewhere out in internet land if you happen to read this, i just want to say please dont judge other peoples lives, the decisions they have made may have been the hardest they have ever had to make, they could be struggling or they could be abundantly happy with the way they live. It's easy to get pregnant, you already should know that, so you should also realize it happening again is just as easy. And btw thank you for inspiring my new endeavors. **

Our "getting out of the house" Routine

Today we decided to take a drive to the states to get some milk and gas, we made this decision around 8:30 am, we were on the road about 2 hours later. Every where we go people are always commenting on how long it must take us to go anywhere. Honestly, it absolutely takes longer than the old on a whim trips but its not really as bad as most people assume, especially since i think we have a pretty good routine, and i can run this drill like a well oiled machine by now.
If we plan a trip before hand this can take slightly less time because i have everything prepared but today it was a last minute decision. (I will make a post later about how I plan for our shopping trips). I was actually feeding Emma and had just got up when we decided this so Luke was already asleep. But its still basically the same routine that I use.

8:30 Feed Emma, Decide to go shopping!
8:45 Make Kalli Breakfast (Banana, Milk)
8:50 Pack Diaper Bag while Kalli Eats
9:00 Feed Luke
9:15 Wipe Kalli off and get her out of her seat
9:20 Dress and Change Luke
9:25 Put Luke in Car Seat (It needed to be re-threaded today so it took an extra 10 minutes to do this!)
9:40 Dress and Change Emma
9:45 Put Emma in her cars eat
9:50 Put Kalli's Car seat and Luke's Base in car
10:10 Get myself dressed
10:15 Get Kalli dressed
10:25 Put Diaper Bag and formula to return in car
10:30 Put Kids in Car and Leave!!

I do this all myself, Jordan occupy's Kalli while i get the twins ready, otherwise she'd be having a fit! All in all today was good we got out quickly and efficiently without any major snags in our plan other that re-threading the car seats... that is a pain in my a** but it's gotta be done!
Leaving the house really isn't an easy task but it is so worth it to relieve that bit of cabin fever I get! I never go out completely alone with more than one, i just don't feel comfortable with it right now, maybe if it was the twins, but not with Kalli! Someday when they can all walk then i will do it but for now i am NOT flying solo! And the absolute best advice i could give to anyone trying to leave the house is have a plan if you can and try to do it the most efficient way possible!